In the CBT world we call a negative thought or negative belief a cognitive distortion. A common cognitive distortion that I see in therapy is call “catastrophizing.” Catastrophizing is when you expect a situation to have the worst possible outcome every time.
Image you are invited to go out with friends, co-workers, or on a date but you haven't been going out. You have been staying in because you are saying to yourself “if I go its going to be a complete disaster. I am going to look like an idiot or say something stupid or waste my time and I’d rather just stay in by myself.” This thought process can be like a ball and chain that is keeping you locked in your house. Wouldn’t you like to be free of that weight?
Evaluation:
Using CBT we will evaluate this cognitive distortion. Is there evidence that supports your thought that its going to be a complete disaster? Is that always true throughout your life? Have you ever had fun going out with friends or on a date?
A CBT approach would be to ask yourself: Is there another way to look at the idea of going out with others?
You will evaluate “what are the reasons I have this pattern of thinking?” You will identify what are the components that have been supporting this cognitive distortion. Then you will approach the situation with a more balanced perspective. Your thought of “this is going to be a disaster” will change too “I have had a difficult time going out in the past but often I do enjoy a night out with my friends.”
It takes time to change these cognitive distortions but I am here to help you with this journey. You will be able to make positive changes in your life that will help you succeed. If you want my help in making these changes message me or give me a call.